It Takes a Village

This is dedicated to my dear friend, fellow caregiver, Ed.  He is the reason behind this post.

I was watching my dear friend, Ed, who sells Younique cosmetics.  He is also a caregiver for his husband, who is 38 and has frontal-lobe dementia.  He always speaks about being kind and supporting each other, along with always saying a prayer for anyone who needs it.  In these videos, there are many caregivers that watch him.  Not so much just to watch amazing makeup tutorials, but to escape our reality.  All of the caregivers have formed friendships, including me.  We have a safe place to talk about our day and we all get what someone is going through.  Circumstances may be different, but caregiving stress is not.

We were talking about how we all have become a family.  I made the comment and the more I think about it, the more it is true.  There is a saying, it takes a village to raise a child.  Well, I believe that this is true for caregiving.  We as caregivers are connected on one single thing.  Our lives as we knew it is forever changed.  I will be the first to tell you, if it wasn’t for the support groups I have found.  This would be a very different journey for me.  A very lonely, stressful journey.  I have developed several friendships over the last couple of years that have forever changed my life.  These friendships are a special type of friendships.  They are forever.  We share the same heartaches, the same stresses, the same joys.  And when the one we are taking care has a bad day, we are all there to pick up the caregiver.  The village is the friends that we make with other caregivers.  The village is family.  The village is the ones who support us caregivers, whether its other caregivers, friends that that been in our lives for a while, or family.   So, this goes out to all the other caregivers, you are not alone.  We are here for you.  No judgement, ever.

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